This blog series is adapted from my panel at the 2018 Calgary Comic and Entertainment Expo. For those who were unable to make it, here’s what you missed!
Our government tells us that we are an adult at the age of 18.
Quick question, who is over the age of 18?
Of those who are of legal age, who actually feels like an adult?
Better yet, who feels like an adult all of the time?
I’d wager that number is not nearly as many as our laws would suggest.
Why is that? That’s a big question that expands FAR beyond the scope of this blog, but I want to explore a bit of the conversation here.
To start out, let’s talk about what it means to be an adult. In my research, I’ve found a few different definitions, because no one seems to really know for sure. Some definitions I’ve found include:
- A person who is fully grown or developed.
- The stage of the life cycle after reproductive capacity has been attained.
- Having attained full size and strength; grown up; mature.
- Having the ability to make your own decisions and dealing with the consequences.
- A person who has attained the age of majority and is therefore regarded as independent, self-sufficient, and responsible.
To add to our confusion, western society, in the aftermath of World War II, created a social structure called the adolescent. Before this, people generally moved from childhood to adulthood directly around the onset of puberty, often with an accompanying rite of passage. However, we have lengthened this transition and created an “in-between” stage where we are no longer children, but not quite adults yet. Over the decades, this adolescent stage has grown longer and longer. Many no longer really believe 18 year olds to be adults, but how about 22 year olds? Or 25 year olds? Or 30 year olds? When asked when someone becomes an adult, the answer is often, “It depends.”
Now that we’ve separated biological adulthood (being able to reproduce) from social adulthood (being seen as an adult), we must have something else that lets us know we’ve arrived at being an adult. Instead of relying on puberty, we rely on social “markers” that let us know that whoever has accomplished these markers is an adult.
In the spirit of goodwill, I want to be very clear that I don’t mean to demean or belittle anyone who has not accomplished one of these markers. There are plenty of reasons why someone hasn’t yet, or perhaps will never go through these events, either by choice or by the nature of who you are. Just take what you can from this series and don’t take any of it too seriously. If you seriously disagree with me, please let me know. I would love to have a conversation
Now, I’ve narrowed down potential markers to these seven:
- Getting a Job
- Moving out/buying a house
- Looking After oneself
- Saving for the Future
- Finding an Identity
- Getting Married
- Having Kids
That said, for many of us, Disney films may have been the biggest media influence on our childhoods. Whether we wanted to be a princess or a street rat or a singing candelabra, we grew up within the stories that Disney has been telling.
We’re going to look at each of these markers in turn to see where Disney movies have given us wisdom and where they have led us astray. We will also compare the lessons from the films with wisdom from the Scriptures. Hopefully, by the end, we’ll have a little more information on what it means to be an adult and how we can start adulting a little better.
Until next time,